3 Ingredients To Finding Your Mojo
Lack of motivation is a very common theme among humans. It’s something that affects even the most focused and resilient of us, at times. But why does it happen? Even when you've set your big hairy audacious goal. Something that gets you so excited it gives you butterflies in your stomach.
Even when you've set yourself a plan, and you know what classes you’re going to be doing each week.
You've even cut out booze and stopped eating biscuits.
Things are going so well, you’re even eating eggs for breakfast. Amazing. You’re killing it. Well done you.
But then … life happens.
Life can be an annoying sometimes. The way it just decides to get in the way of things. It always seems rear its creepy face when things start going well. As if to purposely destroy your hopes and ambitions.
So what can you do to stop it from happening?
Well nothing, really, because that’s life, and as we know, life happens.
In whatever way it wants to. Whenever it wants to.
And you can’t change it. Because you can’t control most of it.
So that’s that.
But hold on, before you give in and hang up your hopes and dreams on the hanger of disappointment, along with a hot dry summer and England winning…well, anything. There are things you can change, and these are the things that are in your control.
And I'm going to reveal the 3 ingredients to success in finding your mojo again. A trifecta of awesomeness, if you will.
3. Support group of like-minded individuals
So when life eventually happens, when work starts getting stressful, and the kids drive you up the wall. If you look at these first then you’ll be able to maintain the motivation to continue.
Staying motivated when you’re tired or busy could be solved by introducing some more helpful habits into your life.
It wasn't until I started to think about why I was doing this behaviour that it clicked. I couldn't get out of bed to work out because of one thing.
I’d have to get out of my warm bed, walk to the other room where my wardrobe was and then put my clothes on and get ready. And at that time of the morning it was too much hassle, too cold, too dark, and I’d much rather another 30 minutes of coziness.
My point with this story is to show you that I changed a behaviour to create a habit. You might recognise this yourself. If you know that you normally go to the gym after work, then get changed into your gym gear at work, or keep your gym bag in the car, so that you won’t have to go home to get changed. Because if you go home first, you won’t leave the house again, se we need to choose the path of least resistance.
“The only person who can make you feel stressed, unhappy and demotivated is yourself. “
So start here first, with yourself.
Because you control your thoughts, and your thoughts control your feelings, which ultimately determine which actions you take, either positive or negative.
So if you’re feeling demotivated it’s normally because your mind-set is out of whack, and you’re focusing on the wrong things. Like ‘I'm tired”, or “I'm too stressed”, or “I haven’t got enough energy to go to the gym”.
Remember it’s just as easy to think and believe positive thoughts as it is to believe the negative ones. Unfortunately we tend to focus and believe the negatives ones too much.
Recognising when you have these is important, because when you do you can change them to better ones, like “I'm feeling great” or “I'm really looking forward to going to the gym”.
And if you’re not really into the positive self-talk right now, then that’s fine, I get it, it can seem a little strange at first.
Alternatively you can also think back to why you started training in the first place. What was the reason why you decided to join the gym? If you don’t know then maybe have a chat with one of our experts, and they’ll help you uncover your true motivation.
This alone should be enough for most people to get over the motivation hurdle. There’s a saying that says “we walk to pleasure, but run from pain”
The pain is the reason why you stepped in the gym in the first place.
Support group of like-minded individuals.
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”
Meaning you can choose to surround yourself with people who encourage you and support you, or you can hang round with people who bring you down.
Being part of a gym like Total Fitness you have access to some amazing resources. Things like the array of classes that go on every day, and the communities like Total Loser, where the people in the group will help each other to stay on track and stay motivated when things get tough.
You also have access to your own personal-motivating-yoda-like-trainer with the different personal trainers available at each gym. There are countless benefits of working with a trainer, and I won’t go into all of them now. But the main one for me is that it’s someone to hold you accountable and help you stay on track, to guide you to the finish line.
A coach once said to me that in order to be successful in anything you need 2 things:
1. Deliberate practise
2. The help of a coach or mentor
The deliberate practise is attending the gym regularly, and the help of a coach or mentor is your support group, personal trainer or friends.
So there you have it, your trifecta of awesomeness. Your guide to increased motivation when times get tough.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about this and whether it has helped you, and if you need help uncovering your true motivation then get in touch.
Shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’d love to hear how you've got on.
Health & Performance Coach